Endless Love

It’s always been my intention to live as long as humanly possible. Many people say they only want to survive until they lose their health and independence, but I don’t care about that stuff. For me, even complete senility isn’t a deal-breaker. I’ve met some pretty dazed and confused elders who, nonetheless, seem to be happy to open their eyes each morning. The way I see it, you can’t be sure about an afterlife, so I’m going to milk this life for every last conscious moment.
I have reason to think my chances for survival are good: Experts say that 25 to 35 percent of life expectancy is genetic (the rest is lifestyle and environment), and my four grandparents, who range in age from 86 to 97, show no intention of leaving us, or each other, anytime soon. They cling so stubbornly to their independence—often against the advice of doctors and loved ones—that my mother jokingly calls them “elderly delinquents.” When one grandfather recently injured his shoulder and his doctor suggested moving my grandmother into a nursing home until he’d recovered enough to resume the cooking and driving he does for the two of them, my grandfather insisted we find another solution. “We’ve been together for over 60 years,” he told me. “I couldn’t sleep at night without her.” After all that time together, he still leaves notes at her bedside, telling her he loves her and that she’s beautiful, in case she wakes in the middle of the night and is disoriented or lonely.
While their enduring love is my ideal, in the past I imagined I’d spend my dotage alone—most women do. Eight out of 10 centenarians (people who live to 100 or older) are women, and only 13 percent of women over age 85 are married (78 percent are widows; the remaining 9 percent are either divorced, separated, or never married). The best-case scenario I could come up with was a sort of Golden Girls thing, where my girlfriends and I would move in with each other. However, they’ve been irritatingly unwilling to get on board my “live forever” bandwagon. When I tried to persuade one friend to quit smoking so we could retire to Boca together, she rolled her eyes and lit up. “I’m not like you. I don’t want to live until I’m a vegetable,” she said. “If I stub my toe, I want them to pull the plug.”
Then I met my husband. In addition to his many other alluring attributes, he revealed one tantalizing fact over the course of our courtship: Several of his grandparents and great-grandparents survived well into their 90s, and his great-aunt was, at the time of her death at 119, the oldest woman in the world. Now here was a gene pool I could work with!
While it’s still a long shot for us both to make it to those rockers on the front porch, recent research shows it’s not as unlikely as it once was. The over-85 age group is currently the fastest growing segment of the population. Life expectancy has increased radically over the past century due to improvements in public health, such as vaccination and antibiotics, and promises to continue its upward climb, thanks to better medical care for top killers like heart disease and cancer.
Men still lag behind women in longevity—as of 2000, they had about five fewer years of life expectancy—but the age gap is narrowing. According to a 2005 report from the U.S. Census Bureau, this is not only because men respond better to treatments for heart disease than women do, but also because women have taken up smoking in increased numbers and more are dying of lung cancer. The government also points to evidence that, while men’s health doesn’t seem to be affected by the increasing pace of American life, women may be more likely to suffer negative consequences from the “stresses related to multiple roles such as housework, occupational activities, caregiving roles including child care and elder care, social activities, etc.” So even though my husband is five years older than I am, with his genes and my stress level, perhaps we can time it so that we’ll dwindle synchronically.
Of course, the only drawback to loving someone so much you never want them to die is that it means spending a lot of time worrying about keeping them alive. The pressure of another 60-odd years of lying awake at night fretting about everything from my husband’s red meat consumption to his exposure to PCBs has been daunting, especially added to my workload of worry about my own health and that of our children. So I was relieved to see research in February’s "Archives of Internal Medicine" on the “modifiable factors” associated with exceptional longevity in men. Finally, some guidance about where to focus my anxiety.
The paper looked at 2,357 men in the Physicians’ Health Study, starting in their early seventies and following them for 25 years (if they survived) into their nineties. The group was pretty homogenous (mostly white, healthy for their age, and all doctors), but the author, Laurel B. Yates, MD, MPH, associate physician at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston and instructor in medicine at Harvard Medical School, points out that this is actually something of an advantage because there’s less chance that socioeconomic, educational, or racial disparities will confound her data. Yates and her team found that the men who abided by five simple Dos and Don’ts had a 54 percent chance of surviving to age 90.
1. Don’t smoke. Current smoking—even in the absence of any other risk factor—doubled men’s risk of dying before age 90. It also reduced their mental and physical competence. “Smoking is just bad for everything,” Yates says. “Bad for the blood vessels, bad for the brain, bad for the lungs, and certainly it’s carcinogenic. Smoking has so many ramifications that it’s number one.” And she emphasizes that it’s never too late to quit; smokers who did stop before the study began erased most of their tobacco-associated risk of death. To encourage a partner to give up cigarettes, she says, the best you can do is provide them with information in a supportive way and hope they make the right decision: “They have to be ready and willing to do it on their own.”
2. Don’t become diabetic. Being a diabetic was nearly as detrimental to men’s longevity as smoking. In other studies, metabolic syndrome—a precursor to diabetes marked by high blood pressure, cholesterol, and blood sugar—is significantly associated with senility. The best way to ward off diabetes is to avoid becoming overweight, Yates says, which is an area in which spouses can have an “enormous” impact. “In any relationship, particularly the longer ones, you know what buttons not to push, and you know that you get less distance out of nagging than honey,” she says. “This is a wonderful opportunity to do things together. Use a little psychology and say, ‘You know, I want to start walking, will you go with me?’” She also notes, “In this country, women still do most of the cooking, so there is certainly room to control diet and portions.”
3. Don’t be obese. Have you ever noticed that when you see a really old person walking down the street, they’re usually on the svelte side? As the nation has gotten heavier, obesity is one of the biggest threats to the gains we have made in public health and life expectancy, Yates says. It reduced men’s chances of surviving until age 90 to just 32 percent. Obesity is medically defined as having a BMI of more than 30 (for the average 5'9" American male, this would mean weighing about 203 pounds). If the love of your life is pushing this kind of weight around, it’s time to use Yates’ tactics to manipulate, I mean encourage, him to lose at least 10 percent of his body weight.
4. Don’t have high blood pressure. In this study, hypertension reduced the chances of men’s survival to extreme old age to 42 percent. Maintaining a healthy weight, exercising, not smoking, limiting sodium, and consuming moderate amounts of alcohol are all proven ways to keep blood pressure in check. Also, a study this past spring of people aged 20 to 68 found that those who reported they were in satisfying marriages had lower blood pressure than singles or those in unhappy marriages. So if things are rocky with your partner, think of couples counseling this way: It may save not only your relationship, but your lives.
5. Do exercise. Men in the study who got regular, vigorous (meaning they worked up a sweat) exercise two to four times a week reduced their risk of mortality by up to 30 percent. They were also less frail and more able to carry out the physical functions of daily life independently. Interestingly, the research found no connection between cholesterol levels or alcohol consumption and men’s mortality, although other research has found moderate drinking to add longevity. And because the study was not originally designed to assess longevity (it began as an evaluation of whether low doses of aspirin and beta carotene supplements reduce cancer and heart disease), there was no data to look at some of the social factors that have been found to influence risk of death in the elderly. So to the list of medical Dos and Don’ts, I’ll add two social ones:
6. Do keep up your sex life. While all those ads for drugs that treat erectile dysfunction (ED) do a good job of making a flaccid penis look like an aphrodisiac, the truth is that ED in middle-aged men can be a sign of heart trouble. Several studies have linked the two, and one late last year found that a flagging erection can predict cardiovascular troubles such as angina, stroke, and heart attacks by about five years. Research published this spring on Viagra users found a high incidence of underlying cardiovascular disease. Sexy! Simply telling your partner how his health habits might effect his virility is often all you need to get a guy off the couch, says cardiologist Mehmet Oz, MD, author of "You: Staying Young: The Owner’s Manual for Extending Your Warranty." Men don’t respond to emotional appeals about future death in the same way a woman would, he says. “Tell them it’s going to affect their performance today—their athletic ability, their mental acuity, impotence,” he says. “Men don’t care about being thin. They want to be masculine and physical.”
7. Take care of yourself. There is ample evidence that marriage is especially important to men’s health, both because wives tend to provide care for their husbands in old age and because men seem to find being widowed more depressing than women do. Single older men have one of the highest suicide rates of any age group, says William Hall, MD, director at the Highland Hospital Center for Healthy Aging at the University of Rochester Medical Center, and studies have shown that widowed men have a high risk of dying in the year after their wives pass on. “Those men aren’t committing suicide,” he says. “They tend to just lose interest in life, as mystical as that sounds.” So one of the best things you can do for his health is make sure you stick around for the long haul too.

The Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name

I’m in the early hours of the morning, ponied up to a bar with a few friends, among them a strikingly beautiful, model-tall female we’ll call Shannon. We’re however many drinks in—that’s inconsequential, really, but alcohol is always motivating—and leaning into each another with droopy lids and grinning mouths. She smells good. I smell good. Our chemistries are working. I throw back the rest of my beer and slide the glass toward the bartender. She does the same. Then there’s that look. We shoot it to each other, almost simultaneously, knowing that the moment is coming. And then we’re kissing—no, we’re making out. I’m an out gay man, and I’m ferociously necking with a woman.
I’d feel more self-conscious copping to this habit of mine if I thought I were the only homosexual male in my set—educated, liberal, sexually exploratory—who indulged. That’s not to say that all gay men and straight women—however liberal—do it. In both groups you’ll find more who never would. After all, the idea of two people with very different sexual identities and attractions ending up tongue-tied is tinged with the absurd, even the pathetic. I don’t want to have sex with her, and she doesn’t want to have sex with me. So why are we engaged in the most overt sexual act a person can perform in public?
My lady-kissing started (or continued, I guess, but more on that later) after I came out. I got my first boyfriend as a 21-year-old senior at New York University, but only after I’d been in the relationship for a while did I gain the confidence to slow-roll my coming out to family and friends; and by 23—after falling deeply in love postcollege—I was a proud gay man to most everyone I knew. Given my upbringing in a small, conservative Arkansas town, you might think I’d be one of those stereotypical farm boys who, after coming to terms with his sexuality, embarks on a series of meaningless hookups. But I had a worldly, sex-positive mother who, from as early as I can remember, looked me and my brothers calmly in the eye and said, “Sex is a wonderful and beautiful thing.” Then she’d break out the Where Did I Come From? book, and we’d go through it page by page as she explained the hows and whys of that wonderful, beautiful thing. I perceived sex as more healthy (and possibly transcendent) than raunchy; I was more inquisitive about it than intimidated. All of which is to say that when I did come out, I didn’t throw on a mesh tank top and hot pants and take my new status as license to become sexually reckless with anyone, male or female.
At the most surface level, I kissed girls because, hey, it’s a good time. Kissing is a sensual experience, and I fancy myself as somewhat of a hedonist who’ll take his pleasures where he can get them. I appreciate physicality for its own sake, relish close contact with other bodies. But did kissing a girl ever make me want more? Did it arouse me? No. Gross. (Kidding—I’m not one of those gay men who’s disgusted by female anatomy.) Yet no matter how sexy the kiss, I just don’t get turned on. So, again, why bother? Why not just find a guy and optimize my pleasure? If only it were that simple.
Growing up in the South, there were activities in which I partook because they’re what Southern boys do: fishing, hunting, camping, riding four-wheelers, watching football, and drinking beer—all with a very close cadre of guys (and no, I didn’t lust after them). So far, those male friendships remain largely unmatched, and when I was on the brink of coming out, perhaps my biggest fear was losing them. It’s not that I thought my crew would write me off out of bigotry, but that they’d see me as this gay dude who’d only done boy stuff because he had to—that I’d be relegated to the cheerleading squad. Thankfully, that didn’t happen at all. I was anxious for everyone to know that I was the same old Seth, except for one little thing—and it turned out they knew it before I did. In the broader world, however, outside the cocoon of my closest confidants, I remained worried about being stripped of my masculinity. One way to display it was to hit traditional heterosexual markers. Yes, he may be gay, but I’ll be damned if he can’t get a beautiful female to find him so attractive that she’ll overlook his sexual predilection and stick her tongue in his mouth.
As the slip into the third person betrays, for me the spectacle was nothing without the audience. I’m not saying I rallied crowds to watch the gay get the girl, but being in the vicinity of others not only didn’t make me hesitate, it encouraged me. Once, Shannon and I went at it right in front of her boyfriend. In retrospect, he had every reason to want to throttle me for being such an asshole, but for some reason he didn’t flinch. Still, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel victorious when, in that moment, she chose me over him.
More fulfilling than making out with a girl in front of her boyfriend was doing it in front of certain gay men—one certain gay man, to be precise. Some prologue: If my first boyfriend, in my NYU days, helped me to peek my head out of the closet, it was Todd who pulled open the door, held out his hand, and yanked me into a glorious light that I thought we’d bask in forever. We’d met my senior year, when I was interning at Saturday Night Live and he was in another division at NBC as part of a “semester abroad” from his college in Santa Fe. He’d come out as a freshman, and I admired his conviction to live an open and happy life. Mild flirtation ensued, but he had a boyfriend, so I had to settle for infatuation. Post-graduation, after a summer at home in Arkansas, I moved to Colorado to spend a season as a bartending ski bum. Todd had returned to Santa Fe to finish his undergrad degree, and owing in part to our regional proximity, we struck up an affair (he’d broken up with his boyfriend). We talked all night every night, totally enamored in the getting-to-know-you phase, and I obsessively imagined our future together as Seth and Todd. I drove to Santa Fe twice, and we spent those weekends in isolated bliss. We never formally declared ourselves boyfriends, but by the spring, I’d fallen so deeply in love I was prepared to do anything for him, including move back to New York and come out fully, which I did.
Once back in the city, however, Todd told me he only wanted to be friends, and, stupidly, I pretended to try, holding on to a glimmer of hope that he’d eventually realize what a catch I was. I tried everything to get him back, including listening to him as he talked about boys who weren’t me and…making out with girls in front of him. It was my way of peacocking, of getting him to see me as someone who was worthy of being lusted after. No matter how drunk and cruisey I got at a gay bar, I would never have done it with a guy in front of him—I couldn’t risk Todd thinking I’d ceded even a modicum of love for him.

Hugs kisses

To love is nothing. To be loved is something. To love and be loved is everything. It's so easy, To think about Love, To Talk about Love, To wish forLove, But it's not always easy, To recognize
Love, Even when we hold it .... In our hands. The greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved - loved for ourselves, or rather, loved inspite of ourselves. To have true love you must have total trust, without trust you can't have true love ..............So believe in and trust the one you truly love. However love has to be expressed and you have to tell a person that you love him/her, which can be done best by giving the person you love a HUG or a KISS.
Express Love with HUGS!
HUGS!
Hugs! A hug is an expression of caring and affection. When someone is down or sad, a hug can be comforting and reassuring. When given to a pal or a friend it means "you are someone I care about!"
When you hug and hold someone you love close to you, it is caring, it is love. Telling each other, this is where we belong, in each other's arms. Comforting, protecting, feeling of security, warmth, and a sense of peace.

When hugging a child, you are giving comfort that they are wanted, loved, cared for, and protected. ... same for an adult.

When in love, a hug can be pure happiness and joy. A release from all the tensions and problems in life that might be bothering you. Because at that moment, when you are hugging, you are where you belong and everything is right. Everything you wanted is in your arms…loving you….holding you…hugging you.

Express Love with THE KISS!

KISSES!
The sunlight claps the earth
And the moonbeams kiss the sea:
What are all these kissing worth
If thou kiss not me?

Kiss is such a form of expressing love that when you kiss a person you are not aware of anything around you. The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.

There is the kiss of welcome and of parting, the long, lingering, loving, present one; the stolen, or the mutual one; the kiss of love, of joy, and of sorrow; the seal of promise and receipt of fulfillment. You may conquer with the sword, but you are conquered by a kiss.

A kiss is something you cannot give without taking and cannot take without giving. The sound of a kiss is not so loud as that of a cannon, but its echo lasts a good deal longer. It is the passion that is in a kiss that gives to it its sweetness; it is the affection in a kiss that sanctifies it.

Is not a kiss the very autograph of love? Is not the kiss the starter of an enduring love? A man snatches the first kiss, pleads for the second, demands the third, takes the fourth, accepts the fifth--and endures all the rest. A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point. That's the basic spelling that every person ought to know.

How To Kiss

Ever wondered if there was a better way to be kissing? Well try our tips and guidelines and your love will surely notice the difference!
The first thing to do when kissing is RELAX. Think about nothing at all but the kiss you're giving. Better yet, just don't think.
Allow yourself to feel like you are completely confident in what you are doing. It makes the world of difference!
Kiss like there was nothing you would like to do than be right there with your love kissing them.
Another pointer a lot of people forget is the usage of your hands. Use them in places, like the back, the shoulders, and the arms. Another great place is the back of the neck with a light massage to the head.
Make it romantic. Kissing is one of the most romantic things you can do.
Pretend it's the first time you've ever kissed this person.

Try something different:
-Keep your eyes open.
-Kiss your partner's face in places other than the lips.
(Light kisses across the forehead are perfect.
-Add variety. Give small kisses in between the big ones.

And always end a kiss with a small soft ending kiss.

French kissing (or Frenching)
French kisses are kisses in which you also use your tongues. (That's why you part your lips slightly.) So, after you've started kissing, the next step is that either he will slip his tongue into your mouth or you'll slip yours into his. Don't let your tongue go limp but move it around his, or playfully push his tongue out with yours, then let him push your tongue back into your mouth, and so on.

Repeat this until you get tired of it (which you never will!) .
A Time to Kiss

There is always time for a kiss but some places can be more fun and romantic. Below is a list of a few great places and occasions to kiss or be kissed!


-When you first see your love.
-Always... when your love is leaving somewhere.
-At a stoplight.
-On the beach at sunset or sunrise.
-In the morning.
-Last thing before you go to bed!
-In the movies.
-In the shower!
-When you are just about to go somewhere.
-By moonlight.
-By candlelight
-At a wedding.
-On vacation.
-As a surprise.


Anytime or anywhere with your love is a great time to kiss or be kissed!

How to Ask Someone out

Though this might not be a problem with some but it might pose to be a big problem for many. There is an easy way to do this without it being tough on you or the other person. Follow the following tips.

Don't just offer a generic invitation: 'Want to go out with me sometime?' That makes it really hard for someone to say no. Which you might think is a good thing--but it's not. It sets you up for an evening with someone who doesn't want to be there, who's kicking themselves for not having figured out a way to say no nicely and who might have actually been psyched to date you if only you'd gotten to know them a little first without all the pressure. Thus DO NOT presume that the other person wants to go out with you. It might just be the other way around hence don't create an awkward situation for you and of course for the other person.
Always ask someone out for a specific thing. Make it easy on yourself also by making the rendezvous in such a way that you were going to do it anyways. Like inviting him/her to your house warming party or B'day party or any other party. Or else you can invite him/her to some get-together or picnic.

First of all, you won't be a nervous wreck asking someone out this way. After all you could be asking them to come along out of friendship. Second, they can say yes, or they can say, 'Sorry, I already have plans, without it being a whole issue. This way you will ensure that you are not embarrassed and also make you know the person a bit more.


And never ask more than once. If the person says no, they said no. (Unless they made it clear that they genuinely had a previous commitment and would have been otherwise interested: 'Wow, I love watching Brad Pitt movie and want to be first on your list the next time you get tickets.')

Foundation of Relationship

Simple but truly needed in a sound relationship which has a solid foundation are the following elements: CARING: Caring about each other.
RESPECT: Respect for each other's needs. COMMUNICATION: Communication between each other. TRUTH: Truth with each other on all things big and small. COMMITMENT: Commitment to each other and the relationship you have.

It is very essential in a relationship to understand your partner and to compromise. There are times when one feels that 'why should I be the one who is always adjusting' but always remember little differences and arguments can be sorted out by simply listening to one another and finding out problems and fixing them, than hanging on to your ego's and repenting later on. Try to keep your relationship good and last forever.
Tips to make sure one's relationship last and is good:

1.Make sure there are no *major* areas of incompatibility. Make a list of what's important to each of you and discuss it to make sure that there are no major indifferences and inaptness amongst you and your partner, which can create complications. To keep a relationship good both people have to care about how their partner feels and make sure to talk about anything that's causing either party to feel like their needs aren't being met and try to fix it. Because that's what breaks relationships and kills the love that was once there. Letting hurt, anger, etc grow and take over instead of fixing the problem while it's small is hazardous to a relationship and must be avoided before it becomes impossible to mend little hurts.
2. Make a commitment... Not in the traditional sense to stay together no matter how bad it gets... you have to be willing to hang in there through difficult times but I think that both parties must commit 110% to nurturing and protecting what they have.. to do things that keep the love you feel alive and strong and to always be vigilant and nip problems in the bud *before* they get to the point of harming your relationship.

IMO That's the key to making a relationship last and stay good.

Make sure you are compatible in the things you both think are important.
Make sure that both of you have the skills to negotiate conflict without having to beat each other up with words.
Make a commitment to keep it good and then make it a reality.

Flirting

Flirting is an art not many people can master it. It is fun and enjoyable and a great way of getting to know someone and starting a relationship. Flirting should be fun and it should be kept as fun. One should know the techniques of proper flirting before starting to flirt because it involves seriousness and truthfulness coupled with fun and wit. See our flirting manual below for more flirting tips and flirting advices and make this experience more enjoyable and pleasant.

The First Step
Flirting is a very inviting, witty and teasing way to tell another person that you are interested and attracted to him/her and would like to get to know one another better. It involves openness and daring. One should be bold enough to approach the other person and start a conversation. There's no harm in letting someone know they're attractive, with no demands or motive behind. Flirting can easily lead to a beginning of a relationship, a date or even new feelings you have on a person when you first meet.

Flirting Rules

Here are some basic rules that one must consider while flirting:

1. Flirting should be fun and pleasant. Do not flirt if you are tense or under pressure.

2. Your comments should be natural, cheerful and witty.

3. You should have the ability to keep the other person comfortable and excited.


4. Do not blow your own horn and make a fool of yourself.

5. Always keep eye contact. It's important, as it tells someone about your intention.

6. Be subtle. Hold her gaze.

7. Lower your voice when in a crowded room so that your partner has to lean towards you to catch your words.

Starting a conversation

The next step is how to start a conversation and what should be your opening lines. To succeed it is necessary to work out an opening line. Think about it! Something that suits your character, not too fancy, not too superficial and for different occasion/ places. Whatever you say should portray to the other person that you are interested in starting a conversation and it should be in such a way that your partner should not feel awkward or uncomfortable. The rule of thumb is "Strike a conversation", put your objective of wanting to know him/her behind your mind, go for topics, like the weather, food, comment on things, ask a question, etc. There is also a piece of warning here. Be prepared for denial or indifference and coldness.

Run the following steps through your mind before you make the move of starting the conversation:

1. Focus, take a deep breadth, this will calm you slightly.


2. Be confident, run your opening lines in your mind.

3. Remove that tensed look on your face, be natural.

4. Walk towards her; remember to keep that smile on your face.

5. When you reach her, keep a slight distance, not too far and not too intimately near. Pop your opening line.

6. Keep the conversation going, see, you've got a friend!

7. Say "thank you" if rejected, and pretend nothing happened.

If you are sincere, friendly, witty and confident, I am pretty sure you won't reach step 7. So here begins a new friendship. This friendship can also culminate into an intimate relationship. If you do not succeed you can start all over again and this time do not commit the same mistakes as you did earlier and follow our tips properly.

Essentional Of kissing

Moist and Soft Lips
While kissing be sure to keep your lips moist and tender. Don't wear too much lipstick unless you want your boyfriend to wear the lipstick too. Cracked lips is also a turn down and try to keep your lips as tender and soft as possible. Moist lips make it easier to kiss your partner and it also enhances the experience.

Great Breath
While kissing the most important thing is to have a great breath. Make sure to brush and floss before going out on a date. Use breath fresheners to have great breath at all times. If you have eaten anything on your date then keep a gum or mint on hand. But please don't keep anything in your mouth when you are kissing.
Eyes
Keeping your eyes open shows unfaithfulness so just before your lips close your eyes. Feel the kiss through your heart and totally devote yourself to the kiss. Some people find kissing with their eyes open quite exciting but you can try that out only after you have known each other for a while.

Hands
Many couples when they kiss for the first time find it difficult to decide as to where to keep their hands. Actually there are many ways you can use your hands. The most romantic way is to keep one hand on your partner's waist and one the neck. Other way is to take the partners face into both of your hands and then run your fingers into their hair.

Positioning
Stand close to each other. You can be in his arms. If you are kissing while being seated, sit close to one another. Needless to say but you have to tilt your head slightly in order to kiss your partner. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Characteristics of Great Relationship

What do you look into your partner? What do you expect form him/her? Every person has an image of their partner in their minds and think that their partner should be loving, considerate, joyful, have a great sense of humour and should love them crazily. Following are a few things that one always tries to search in their partner and which not only makes a great partner but also are the characteristics of a great relationship.

Someone who is caring and honest.
Someone who laughs with you and cries with you and is there for you at all the times.
Someone who truly listens to what you say and understands that though listening is a key, but using what is heard is even more important.
Someone who knows what you want before you say it.
Someone who respects you for what you are and does not flatter you unnecessarily.
Someone who is open and responsive and with whom you can confide in like a friend.
Someone who is never critical and ill tempered and knows how to compromised in the relationship.
Someone who loves you with all his heart.
Someone who likes everything that you do.
Someone with whom you have many common interests to share.
Someone who is trustworthy and who will risk his/her life for you.
Someone who takes time to listen and enjoy you for who you are and tries not to make you something else.
Someone that has a personality with qualities you don't have yourself, but admire greatly in them.
Someone who loves the stupid stuff you do without making fun of you.
Someone who appreciates your food even if it is not tasty but loves it because you have worked so hard to prepare it.
Someone who can make you happy when you are sad.
Someone who tells you the truth even if you don't want to hear it.
Someone who is a sweet, romantic person who cherishes you no matter what.
Someone who knows you're not perfect but treats you as though you are.
Someone who is a great person, a great kisser, and a great lover!

Seven Ways To approach a Women

pproaching women is not that tough as you think. You just need confidence and should know to use the right words. Here are a few things you should know before approaching the girl you just met and you are attracted to.
1. The first most important thing is to take it easy. If you get all jittery and scared and think that if you don't get this girl, it is going to be the end of your life, then you will never really get to know her. So be cool and don't overstep your bounds. If you succeed, its great and if not then move on. Don't care about the outcome so much that it will make you nervous and you will spoil every chance that you ever had.
2. Be confident. People show confidence (or lack of it) in a thousand small ways; your posture, the way you talk, a lack of waiver in your voice, eye contact, body position, placement of the hands, etc., etc. All of these are critical and create an impression. Your impression should always be one of confidence.
3. Smile. This is the best part. Your smile can mean a lot. Smiles can easily look like nervousness. Therefore you need to know how good your smile is. You should practice this in front of the mirror until you feel comfortable with it and until it looks natural.

4. Take the conversation somewhere. Pickup lines are no good and will take you nowhere. Your conversation should be intelligent and meaningful. That doesn't mean that you start discussing politics or football with her. You're trying to get to know the woman in the quickest, most direct way possible. Thus, get her talking about herself! Use this as a discovery of both who she is, and what you need to do to move the conversation on.

5. Listen to her. This is an important part of the conversation. Just don't keep talking on and on. You need to listen to what she says and focus on her. Look into her eyes.

6. Close. You have to ask for what you want. Don't wait for her to do the thing for you. Far too many men expect the woman to close for them; waiting for her to give you her number. Instead, you need to be the one to ask for it. Then, when you do, be direct, calm, confident, and don't ask her - tell her. Say something like, "Here, write your home phone number down on this paper and I'll call you sometime to continue this conversation."

7. Leave! You always want to be the one to end the conversation. Don't over-stay your welcome. Close, and make your exit.